Mary Ann was a widow but LDS records have her name as Barnes with Henry Bender as her father.
On 7/13/1860 Mary was recently widowed and listed as head of the household in Macon Co, IL, PO Decatur. She was 31 and listed there with her were John, 10 (was he Mary's son from a previous marriage?), Julia, 2, Elizabeth, 7 months, George, 18 (Charles' brother) and Elizabeth Miller, 54, relationship unstated. Mary had no real estate but did have $350 in personal property.